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When I was 14, I announced to my family that I wanted to study <a data-mce-href="https://psi-encyclopedia.spr.ac.uk/articles/etzel-carde%C3%B1a" href="https://psi-encyclopedia.spr.ac.uk/articles/etzel-carde%C3%B1a" target="_blank" rel="noopener">parapsychology</a>. The idea of exploring the unexplained—the dreams that whisper truths, the spirits that linger just beyond our sight—lit a fire in me. But my declaration was met with laughter, a chorus of skepticism that snuffed out my budding curiosity. They didn’t mean to be cruel; it was just too far-fetched for them. Yet, the universe has a way of teaching us what we need to know, even when the world dismisses it.That same year, my great-grandmother—Nana—passed away. The night she died, she visited me. I woke to the weight of her presence at the side of my bed, her hand, warm and steady, contrasting with the cold, hard hand I would hold a few days later at the funeral home. “Everything will be okay,” she said, her voice soft but certain. I didn’t question it then; it felt as real as the sheets beneath me. I don't question it now. &nbsp;The night before her death, I’d dreamt of my father’s mother having a heart attack. In my dream, I’d mixed up the grandmothers—dreams are funny like that, slippery and layered with meaning.Decades later, the dreams still come, unsolicited and uncanny. Recently, I woke from a vivid one: my stepfather, clutching his chest, a heart attack stealing his breath. I scribbled it down, heart pounding, and spent the next day or two wondering who it might be. My genetic father? I just couldn’t see my stepfather dying like that—it didn’t make sense. Was it my past husband’s dad, who’d been unwell? The answer came three weeks later when Steve—a local musician and humanitarian here in New Mexico—passed away suddenly. Steve wasn’t family by blood, but he’d been a friend and father like figure since I moved here three years ago. He’d shown me kindness, checking in on me, even stopping by my studio not long ago to tease, “Why don’t you come see me anymore?” Then, just like that, he was gone. Another dream woven into reality. I went back to the voice recording of the dream to check the date after hearing the news. The dream happened February 4th. Steve died February 6th. RIP Steve. Thank you for your kindness and joyful heart. &lt;3I’ve had many dreams like this—glimpses of what’s to come that I can’t quite shake. They’re not always clear-cut; they twist and turn, leaving me to piece them together after the fact. But they’ve taught me to listen, to trust that there’s more to this world than what we can touch or prove. This brings me to a fascinating yet short video I stumbled across on <a data-mce-href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ac9ZhnFbeQE" href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ac9ZhnFbeQE" target="_blank" rel="noopener">YouTube, “Journeying Beyond the Veil” </a>In it, the creators dive into the mysteries of consciousness, death, and what might lie beyond—topics that resonate deeply with my own experiences. They explore how dreams, near-death experiences, and even premonitions might hint at a greater connection, a thread that ties us to something bigger. Watching it, I couldn’t help but think of Nana’s visit, of Steve’s sudden departure, and of the dreams that bridge the gap between what I know and what I feel.The short video doesn’t claim to have all the answers—no good exploration of the unknown does. Instead, it invites us to wonder, to consider that maybe our minds and spirits stretch further than we’ve been taught. For me, that’s a comforting thought. It’s a reminder of that 14-year-old girl who wanted to study parapsychology, who felt the world ripple with unseen possibilities. My family laughed then, but life has shown me there’s truth in the things we can’t explain.<figure id="figure-rilltg3eizm8nedesd"><iframe id="rilltg3eizm8nedesd" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/ac9ZhnFbeQE" class="w-full bg-gray-100 " style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;" allowfullscreen="" data-url="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ac9ZhnFbeQE" data-corners="default" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/ac9ZhnFbeQE" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;"></iframe></figure>What about you? Have you ever had a dream that felt like more than just a dream? I’d love to hear your stories—because if there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that we’re all connected in ways we’re only beginning to understand.And if you enjoyed the video above, check out this excellent one where Dr. Etzel Cardeña discusses a landmark peer-reviewed study on psychic abilities. Published in a prestigious APA journal, it provides validation for PSI phenomena and offers deep insights into the nature of human consciousness. Watch it here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v5d_Sx6Zh5k<a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v5d_Sx6Zh5k" target="_blank" rel="noopener" data-mce-href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v5d_Sx6Zh5k">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v5d_Sx6Zh5k</a><figure id="figure-zvvpiq9ecm8nhexci" class=""><iframe id="zvvpiq9ecm8nhexci" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/v5d_Sx6Zh5k" class="w-full bg-gray-100 " style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;" allowfullscreen="" data-url="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v5d_Sx6Zh5k" data-corners="default" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/v5d_Sx6Zh5k" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;"></iframe></figure>

A Journey Beyond the Veil: Dreams, Premonitions, and the Unseen

Loss carries a weight that words can barely hold—whether you’re preparing to leave this world or standing beside someone who is. In those tender, overwhelming days, Ever Loved’s <a href="https://everloved.com" target="_blank" rel="noopener" data-mce-href="https://everloved.com">https://everloved.com</a> becomes a quiet gift. It’s more than a resource; it’s a steady hand for the dying and their loved ones, easing the journey with grace.For Those Nearing the End: A Way to Share Your HeartIf your time is drawing close, the last thing you want is to leave your family lost in details. "Ever Loved" offers a simple space to gather your wishes—how you’d like to be remembered, where your accounts rest, a few words to hold them after you’re gone. It’s easy, secure, and yours to shape, giving you the comfort of knowing they’ll be cared for.For Loved Ones: A Path Through the FogWhen grief arrives, it’s hard to see straight—yet there’s so much to do. If your person left their plans in "Ever Loved," you’ll find a clear thread to follow. Their voice guides you—where to look, what to handle—softening the chaos so you can breathe, mourn, and honor them without drowning in the unknown.From a Death Doula’s Heart: My Hope, and a Beautiful AlternativeAs a death doula, I want to walk with you through this sacred time—offering presence, sorting the pieces, making space for what matters most. If that’s not possible—and I understand the many reasons why—Ever Loved steps in with tenderness. It’s a tool I weave into my own work, a companion that holds you when others can’t. It’s not about replacing the human touch; it’s about ensuring you’re never alone.<figure id="figure-49bdboj66lm8dgh7zc"><iframe id="49bdboj66lm8dgh7zc" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/jxNT7GZEZkI" class="w-full bg-gray-100 " style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;" allowfullscreen="" data-url="https://youtu.be/jxNT7GZEZkI?feature=shared" data-corners="default" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/jxNT7GZEZkI" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;"></iframe></figure> Why It ShinesEver Loved provides tools and services that meet us where we are—practical yet soulful, a bridge between letting go and holding on. It’s a small light in the dark, and that’s everything. &nbsp;Journeying On was recently added to Ever Loved's Death Doula Resource Page. &nbsp;Check it out &nbsp;<a data-mce-href="https://everloved.com/death-doulas/NM/santa-fe/journeyingon-santa-fe-nm/" href="https://everloved.com/death-doulas/NM/santa-fe/journeyingon-santa-fe-nm/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">https://everloved.com/death-doulas/NM/santa-fe/journeyingon-santa-fe-nm/</a>

A Gentle Guide Through Life’s Final Moments - Ever Loved

I just got my 23andMe results back—turns out I’m 90% Anglo-Irish-Scottish. No real surprises there, considering I was born in England to an Irish mother and a Scottish father. But seeing it spelled out, my heritage quantified in percentages, has me thinking about lineage, ancestry, and I wanted to take a moment to honor the death rituals of the Irish. And what better day to reflect on Irish death traditions than St. Patrick’s Day?Now, St. Paddy’s (yes, Paddy, never Patty) is a day of revelry, rivers dyed green, and questionable decisions involving Guinness. But Ireland has a long and rich relationship with death, one that is woven into its culture through keening, wakes, and an almost reverent sense of humor about the whole thing.No one does death quite like the Irish. The traditional Irish wake is legendary—a gathering of family and friends, not just to mourn but to celebrate the life of the deceased. The body would often be laid out in the home, candles flickering, a steady flow of whiskey, tea, and stories. Grief and laughter sit side by side, as tales are told, songs are sung, and people drink deep from both sorrow and joy.There’s a kind of defiance in it, a refusal to let death steal the spirit of the one who’s passed. The wake is an acknowledgment: yes, they’re gone, but let’s send them off properly—with warmth, wit, and one last toast.Before the wake, there was the keening—an ancient practice where women would wail and lament over the body, a raw, heart-wrenching expression of sorrow. It was once a central part of mourning, a tradition passed down through generations, but the Church wasn’t a fan and did its best to stamp it out. Even so, echoes of keening remain in the way the Irish express grief—open, poetic, and unafraid of the depth of loss.Irish folklore is brimming with stories of the dead. The banshee, for one, is said to wail outside the homes of those about to pass, her cry an eerie herald of death. Then there’s Samhain, the Celtic festival marking the thinning of the veil between the living and the dead—Halloween’s spiritual ancestor.Even on St. Patrick’s Day, when the spirits in question are more likely to be found at the bottom of a pint glass, there’s an ever-present awareness of the past, of those who came before, and of the great, inevitable journey we all take.And let us not forget the irreverent sense of humor of the Irish—Father Ted comes to mind. Here's a short clip from the brilliant, though short-lived, series.<figure id="figure-8gi7m0hxgt8m8dbvpus"><iframe id="8gi7m0hxgt8m8dbvpus" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/pL1rOQUVVHw" class="w-full bg-gray-100 " style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;" allowfullscreen="" data-url="https://youtu.be/pL1rOQUVVHw?feature=shared" data-corners="default" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/pL1rOQUVVHw" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;"></iframe></figure>So, while the world drinks to St. Patrick today, I find myself raising a glass to something older, deeper. To the Irish way of death—fiercely felt, deeply honored, and never without a good story. - Happy St Paddy's Day! Sundara<blockquote>Sláinte to the ones who came before us. May we meet them again, laughing, on the other side.</blockquote>As an End of Life Doula, I hold space for the traditions that bring comfort at life’s end. Whether it’s storytelling, music, or simply being present in a way that honors your journey, I am here to help you and your loved ones navigate this transition with dignity and care. If you’d like to explore how I can support you in preserving your own traditions at the end of life, let’s connect.

Death in Ireland: A St. Paddy’s Day Reflection

We all die. Let’s start living like we truly understand that. We plan for so many things—why not our death?Embracing our mortality is a profound step toward living a more intentional and meaningful life. By acknowledging that our time is finite, we can prioritize what truly matters and ensure our final wishes are honored.<figure id="figure-weq240c9u4m7w9whmp"><iframe id="weq240c9u4m7w9whmp" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/WPQ-UihGYQA" class="w-full bg-gray-100 " style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;" allowfullscreen="" data-url="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WPQ-UihGYQA" data-corners="default" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/WPQ-UihGYQA" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;"></iframe></figure>Video - I help people die – here’s what they’ve taught me about living | Alua Arthur<h3>The Importance of End-of-Life Planning</h3>Proactively planning for the end of life offers numerous benefits:Alleviating Stress for Loved Ones: Having a clear plan in place reduces the emotional burden on family members during an already challenging time. It minimizes potential conflicts and uncertainties about your wishes.&nbsp;Ensuring Personal Wishes Are Honored: Documenting your preferences ensures that decisions regarding medical care, funeral arrangements, and asset distribution align with your desires.&nbsp;Financial Preparedness: Planning helps manage costs associated with end-of-life arrangements, preventing unexpected financial strain on your family.Living Fully by Facing MortalityConfronting the reality of death can enrich our lives:Enhanced Appreciation: Recognizing life's impermanence encourages us to cherish everyday moments and relationships.Authentic Living: Awareness of mortality prompts us to align our actions with our true values, leading to a more genuine and fulfilling existence.Prioritizing Meaningful Goals: Understanding that time is limited motivates us to focus on what truly matters, fostering a sense of purpose.<h3>Taking Action</h3>To integrate this awareness into your life:<ul><li>Reflect on Personal Values – Consider what is most important to you and how you want to be remembered.</li><li>Communicate with Loved Ones – Discuss your wishes openly to ensure they are understood and respected.</li><li>Seek Professional Guidance – Consult with legal and financial experts to formalize your plans effectively.</li></ul>By embracing our mortality and planning accordingly, we not only secure our own peace of mind but also gift our loved ones with clarity and comfort. This conscious acknowledgment allows us to live more fully, with intention and purpose.<h3>Need Support in Planning Your End-of-Life Journey?</h3>As an End of Life Doula, I offer compassionate guidance to help you navigate these important conversations and create a plan that reflects your values and wishes. Whether you're seeking clarity, practical resources, or emotional support, I'm here to assist you.📞 <a data-mce-href="https://calendly.com/journeyingon/15min?month=2025-03" href="https://calendly.com/journeyingon/15min?month=2025-03" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Schedule a free 15-minute consultation today and take the first step toward a peaceful and intentional transition.&nbsp;</a>Salutations, &nbsp;Sundara &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;

We plan for so many things—why not our death?

As an end-of-life worker, I accept and serve people of all religions, meeting them where they are in their beliefs and traditions. But if I had to choose one path that resonates most deeply, I find myself drawn to the Tao. Some would argue it isn’t a religion at all—more a way of being, a philosophy that embraces the ebb and flow of life with acceptance rather than resistance.Recently, after a thought-provoking conversation about reality, technology, and the future of humanity, I revisited Zhuangzi’s famous <a data-mce-href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zhuangzi_(book)#%22The_Butterfly_Dream%22" href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zhuangzi_(book)#%22The_Butterfly_Dream%22" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Butterfly Dream</a>. That led me to another of his stories, one that speaks powerfully to those who are grieving: Drumming on a Tub and Singing.In this tale, Zhuangzi’s wife has died, and rather than weeping in despair, he sits on the ground, drumming on a tub and singing. When asked how he can do such a thing, he explains that life and death are part of the same unfolding mystery, that grief is not about clinging to what was, but about moving with the rhythms of existence itself.For those mourning a loved one, this story offers something profound—not a call to suppress grief, but an invitation to see it through a different lens. What if, instead of resisting change, we honored the full cycle of life? What if we trusted in the vast, unknowable unfolding, where birth and death are not endpoints, but movements in a greater flow?This is not to say that loss doesn’t ache. It does. But perhaps, like Zhuangzi, we can find a way to meet it with something other than sorrow alone. Perhaps, in time, we too might drum and sing.<a data-mce-href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zhuangzi_(book)#%22The_Butterfly_Dream%22" href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zhuangzi_(book)#%22The_Butterfly_Dream%22" target="_blank" rel="noopener">"Drumming On a Tub and Singing"</a> 莊子妻死，惠子弔之，莊子則方箕踞鼓盆而歌。惠子曰：與人居長子，老身死，不哭亦足矣，又鼓盆而歌，不亦甚乎。 Zhuangzi's wife died. When Huizi went to convey his condolences, he found Zhuangzi sitting with his legs sprawled out, pounding on a tub and singing. "You lived with her, she brought up your children and grew old," said Huizi. "It should be enough simply not to weep at her death. But pounding on a tub and singing—this is going too far, isn't it?"莊子曰：不然。是其始死也，我獨何能無概然。察其始而本無生，非徒無生也，而本無形，非徒無形也，而本無氣。雜乎芒芴之間，變而有氣，氣變而有形，形變而有生，今又變而之死，是相與為春秋冬夏四時行也。 Zhuangzi said, "You're wrong. When she first died, do you think I didn't grieve like anyone else? But I looked back to her beginning and the time before she was born. Not only the time before she was born, but the time before she had a body. Not only the time before she had a body, but the time before she had a spirit. In the midst of the jumble of wonder and mystery a change took place and she had a spirit. Another change and she had a body. Another change and she was born. Now there's been another change and she's dead. It's just like the progression of the four seasons, spring, summer, fall, winter."人且偃然寢於巨室，而我噭噭然隨而哭之，自以為不通乎命，故止也。 "Now she's going to lie down peacefully in a vast room. If I were to follow after her bawling and sobbing, it would show that I don't understand anything about fate. So I stopped."— Zhuangzi, chapter 18If you find yourself needing support through a time of grief, don’t hesitate to reach out. I offer compassionate guidance for those navigating loss, and you can find <a data-mce-href="https://journeyingon.com/grief---bereavement-services" href="https://journeyingon.com/grief---bereavement-services" target="_blank" rel="noopener">additional resources</a> on my website to help you through this journey. You don’t have to walk it alone.<figure id="figure-7lpn62m23im7glyjtx"><img id="7lpn62m23im7glyjtx" src="https://cdn.durable.co/covers/27uGT15TDBOpZjmwRr0sjV66AVcqWdREuw8837tsmaUP1X7zievikhVcvX5Jhw6G.jpg" alt="" title="" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 " style="aspect-ratio: 1/1; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="1:1" data-caption="" data-positionx="undefined" data-positiony="undefined" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://cdn.durable.co/covers/27uGT15TDBOpZjmwRr0sjV66AVcqWdREuw8837tsmaUP1X7zievikhVcvX5Jhw6G.jpg" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 1/1; object-position: center center;"></figure>

Drumming on a Tub and Singing: A Taoist Reflection on Grief

A few years back, I stumbled upon an intriguing exhibition at the Bristol Museum &amp; Art Gallery titled "Death: The Human Experience." Running from October 24, 2015, to March 13, 2016, this exhibition delved into the multifaceted ways humans perceive and handle death across different cultures and eras. It showcased a diverse array of artifacts, from a vibrant Ghanaian fantasy coffin to a somber Victorian mourning dress, each narrating unique stories about mortality.<figure id="figure-26az8e6ybfm7ceehbz"><img id="26az8e6ybfm7ceehbz" src="https://cdn.durable.co/blocks/14UPiWYj3xECLxdtfeuBaPMwALuogwntevJqwQyuyGZOVa1BGxT5bce4U1C0KXxP.jpg" alt="" title="" class="object-cover bg-gray-100" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="undefined" data-positiony="undefined" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://cdn.durable.co/blocks/14UPiWYj3xECLxdtfeuBaPMwALuogwntevJqwQyuyGZOVa1BGxT5bce4U1C0KXxP.jpg" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure>What made this exhibition particularly compelling was its mission to break the societal taboo surrounding discussions about death. By presenting death through various lenses—be it ethical dilemmas, cultural rituals, or personal anecdotes—it encouraged visitors to reflect on their own beliefs and feelings about life's inevitable end. Apparently it showcased everything from elaborate Ghanaian coffins to Victorian mourning jewelry, highlighting the many ways humans process loss.For those who couldn't attend in person or wish to revisit the exhibition, the museum offers an online version. This digital experience allows you to explore the same thought-provoking content from the comfort of your home, ensuring the conversation about death continues beyond the museum walls.<a data-mce-href="https://exhibitions.bristolmuseums.org.uk/death/" href="https://exhibitions.bristolmuseums.org.uk/death/" target="_blank" rel="noopener" data-mce-selected="inline-boundary">bristolmuseums.org.uk</a>If you're curious about how soe of the different societies handle death or just want to reflect on your own thoughts about mortality, I highly recommend checking it out. &nbsp;To Life &amp; Death, Sundara Heart<figure id="figure-4gys7gssem7cejhzp"><img id="4gys7gssem7cejhzp" src="https://cdn.durable.co/blocks/115wR7l00zoClMdcEukRp11F05ZGpAJuZu2briEtAODrCrK5wMDaln37zGocQ6sG.jpg" alt="" title="" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 " style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="undefined" data-positiony="undefined" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://cdn.durable.co/blocks/115wR7l00zoClMdcEukRp11F05ZGpAJuZu2briEtAODrCrK5wMDaln37zGocQ6sG.jpg" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure>

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Bristol Museum & Art Gallery- "Death: The Human Experience."