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I recently discovered an amazing website, The Inspired Funeral,-packed with incredible resources! Their collection of heartfelt readings is perfect for funerals, memorials, or moments of reflection. The tools here are thoughtfully curated, offering inspiration and comfort for anyone planning a meaningful farewell. Whether you’re seeking poetry, prose, or guidance, The Inspired Funeral has you covered with resources that resonate deeply. Check it out and explore their treasures—you won’t be disappointed!<a data-mce-href="https://theinspiredfuneral.com/home/#journey" href="https://theinspiredfuneral.com/home/#journey" target="_blank" rel="noopener">https://theinspiredfuneral.com/home/#journey</a>

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Two weeks ago, one of my patients, 'Two Birds", made the deeply personal choice to pursue Medical Assistance in Dying (MAID). On September 3rd, he transitioned, leaving behind a body that no longer served him after battling a debilitating disease. He was a Buddhist, and grappled with the concept of suicide—it’s frowned upon in the teachings, yet the practice also questions attachment to material things, including the body. For Two Birds, letting go was an act of release, a way to honor his journey without clinging to a vessel that brought him more suffering than joy.<figure id="figure-4zvagql7vrmfpqj3sp"><img id="4zvagql7vrmfpqj3sp" src="https://cdn.durable.co/covers/18JhInK0AbEaWNvUl8RrqH2RXynPWovrx4NOmCSvU1sCGZ588N61DeTW8cn4X7X6.jpg" alt="Dying Man in his bed dressed as a cowboy" title="Dying Man in his bed dressed as a cowboy" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 " style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: 50% 30%;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="Two Birds, the morning of his transition wearing his cowboy outfit <3" data-positionX="50%" data-positionY="30%" data-fullWidth="false"/><figcaption class="body-normal text-gray-500 mt-2">Two Birds, the morning of his transition wearing his cowboy outfit <3</figcaption></figure>This experience led me to reflect on the broader landscape of euthanasia and assisted suicide, and recently a hosopice worker sent me this article and asked me to post it on my website.&nbsp; It's an insightful article on DNAWeekly.com that dives into the global state of these practices in 2025. It’s a compassionate, well-researched guide that breaks down the differences between euthanasia (where a doctor or another person ends a patient’s life, actively or passively) and assisted suicide (where the patient self-administers a lethal dose, often with a physician’s guidance). The article also maps out where these practices are legal, the processes involved, and the costs, offering clarity for anyone navigating this complex decision.The guide highlights that euthanasia and assisted suicide are legal in places like Victoria (Australia), Belgium, Canada, Colombia, the Netherlands, Switzerland, Luxembourg, New Zealand, Spain, and select U.S. states like New Mexico, Oregon and Washington. Each region has its own rules—some, like Switzerland, even allow non-residents to seek assisted suicide, making it a destination for those seeking a dignified end. The article explains the medications (typically anesthesia paired with a barbiturate like phenobarbital), legal requirements (like terminal illness diagnoses or mental competency), and processes (often involving multiple physician reviews and waiting periods). Costs vary, from free in countries with socialized healthcare to thousands of euros in Switzerland for non-residents.What struck me most was the article’s emphasis on the “right to die” as a matter of autonomy and dignity. For Two Birds, this resonated deeply. His illness stripped away his physical independence, and MAID offered a way to reclaim control over his final moments. The guide also acknowledges the controversy, especially in religious contexts, but notes that global attitudes are shifting toward recognizing this choice as a human right.As I sit with Two Birds’ transition, I’m reminded that the Buddhist path asks to release attachment, to see the body as impermanent. His decision wasn’t about giving up but about embracing peace. If you’re exploring this topic, whether for yourself or a loved one, I recommend reading the DNAWeekly guide for its clear, compassionate overview. It’s a heavy topic, but one worth reflecting on with an open heart.<a data-mce-href="https://www.dnaweekly.com/blog/complete-guide-euthanasia-where-how-when-legal/" href="https://www.dnaweekly.com/blog/complete-guide-euthanasia-where-how-when-legal/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">https://www.dnaweekly.com/blog/complete-guide-euthanasia-where-how-when-legal/</a>What are your thoughts on the right to die? How do we balance compassion, autonomy, and the sanctity of life? Let’s journey through these questions together.With Love, Sundara Heart

Reflections on MAID and the Right to Die

Hello, dear readers,First, my heartfelt apologies for the long silence on this blog. Summer swept me away with its warmth, and my work with patients kept me busier than ever. I’m so grateful for your patience and for joining me again as I share what’s been on my heart.Today, I want to tell you about the incredible work happening at Scott’s House, a community hospice and respite house in Santa Fe, New Mexico. If you haven’t heard of it, Scott’s House is a beacon of compassion, offering a free social model hospice residence for those nearing the end of life or needing respite care. Their mission is to provide a warm, supportive home for individuals and families during life’s most tender moments, and they’re doing it with such grace.I’ve been particularly inspired by three remarkable individuals at Scott’s House: Whitney, Phillip, and Smitty. Their dedication to this mission is nothing short of extraordinary. Whitney pours her heart into ensuring every resident feels cared for, coordinating with Medicare Hospice providers to make sure medical needs are met while fostering a sense of home. Phillip brings an infectious energy, and wonderful smile. And Smitty, the argentinian volunteer whoose wacky and wonderful ways bring a loving supporive vibe to the community and patients there. These three help create a space where people feel truly seen and supported, whether they’re staying for a few days or longer.Scott’s House, named after Scott Carl, who faced immense challenges after a tragic accident left him quadriplegic, embodies the resilience and love of its founder, Glenys Carl. Her story, detailed in her book Hold My Hand: A Mother’s Journey, is a testament to the power of determination and hope. It’s a story that fuels the mission of Scott’s House and reminds us why this work matters so much.As I reflect on their efforts, I’m filled with a renewed sense of purpose. My goal is to get more involved with Scott’s House in the future—whether through volunteering, spreading their mission, or supporting their incredible work in any way I can. I hope you’ll join me in learning more about this beautiful organization at scottshouse.org and maybe even consider picking up a copy of Glenys’s book to support their cause.Thank you for being part of this journey with me. Here’s to catching up, giving back, and holding space for what matters most.With gratitude, Sundara Heart

Catching Up and Shining a Light on Scott’s House

<h3> A Guide to Honoring Your Loved One with Confidence</h3>As an end-of-life worker in New Mexico, I work alongside families to create meaningful, farewells that honor their loved ones’ wishes. Navigating the legal steps of a funeral or burial can feel overwhelming, but you don’t have to do it alone. This free checklist, crafted with care, empowers you to manage these tasks with clarity—whether you’re planning a green burial, home funeral, or cremation. If you’d prefer support, <a href="https://journeyingon.com/services" target="_blank" rel="noopener" data-mce-href="https://journeyingon.com/services">I’m here</a> to handle these details with compassion, ensuring every step reflects your vision. Let’s create a farewell that resonates with love. Contact <a href="https://journeyingon.com/contact" target="_blank" rel="noopener" data-mce-href="https://journeyingon.com/contact">me</a> to learn how I can help, or <a data-mce-href="https://drive.google.com/file/d/1ms1X-37nAT3EaurrENajY7n4esdXz3tA/view?usp=sharing" href="https://drive.google.com/file/d/1ms1X-37nAT3EaurrENajY7n4esdXz3tA/view?usp=sharing" target="_blank" rel="noopener" data-mce-selected="inline-boundary">download </a>the checklist to start planning now.<h3>Step 1: Pronounce and Report the Death</h3>Confirm death pronunciation: A physician, nurse, or hospice worker must pronounce the death. For expected deaths at home, contact the deceased’s doctor or hospice. For unexpected deaths, call 911. Notify the county coroner (if required): Report unattended or suspicious deaths to the county coroner (e.g., Santa Fe County Coroner: 505-992-3070). Verify with local authorities. Resource: New Mexico Office of the Medical Investigator: <a href="https://omi.unm.edu/" data-mce-href="https://omi.unm.edu/">https://omi.unm.edu/</a><h3>Step 2: Obtain a Death Certificate</h3>File within 5 days: File a death certificate with the New Mexico Bureau of Vital Records within 5 days. A funeral home, hospice, or family member can do this. Gather required info: Include the deceased’s full name, date of birth, date of death, place of death, and cause of death for burial permits. Request copies: Order multiple certified copies ($10 each) for tasks like closing accounts. Contact: New Mexico Vital Records (<a data-mce-href="https://www.nmhealth.org/about/erd/bvrhs/vrp/death/" href="https://www.nmhealth.org/about/erd/bvrhs/vrp/death/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">https://www.nmhealth.org/about/erd/bvrhs/vrp/death/</a>).&nbsp; Local Contact: Santa Fe County Clerk (505-986-6280).<h3>Step 3: Secure a Burial-Transit Permit</h3>Obtain permit: Needed to transport or bury a body. Request from the county health office after filing the death certificate (funeral home or family can do this). No embalming required: Embalming isn’t mandated unless crossing state lines or holding the body over 24 hours in some cases (NMSA 1978, § 24-12A-2). Resource: Contact your county health office (e.g., San Miguel County: 505-425-9333).<h3>Step 4: Plan the Burial or Cremation</h3>Choose disposition: Select burial (cemetery, home, or green) or cremation. No funeral director is required; families can manage independently. Home burial: Legal on private land with owner consent. Check local zoning (e.g., Santa Fe County Planning: 505-986-6215). No vault required unless cemetery-specified. Scattering ashes: Allowed on private land with permission or public land (e.g., BLM) if discreet. No permit needed (NMSA 1978, § 24-12A-2). Green burial: Confirm cemetery rules (e.g., no embalming, biodegradable casket). See Green Burial Council: <a data-mce-href="https://www.greenburialcouncil.org" href="https://www.greenburialcouncil.org" target="_blank" rel="noopener">https://www.greenburialcouncil.org</a>/. Note: For tribal lands (e.g., Taos Pueblo), contact tribal authorities.<h3>Step 5: Designate a Disposition Agent</h3>Appoint an agent (optional): Designate someone to control body disposition via a signed affidavit (NMSA 1978, § 24-12A-1). Document wishes: Record preferences in a will or “Five Wishes” document <a data-mce-href="https://www.fivewishes.org/" href="https://www.fivewishes.org/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">(https://www.fivewishes.org/</a>). Tip: Share copies with family and your agent. Step 6: Verify Costs and Avoid Overcharges Request price lists: Funeral homes must provide itemized prices (FTC Funeral Rule). Compare costs for direct burial or cremation. Check county assistance: Low-income families may qualify for indigent burial aid (e.g., Bernalillo County: 505-468-7000; <a data-mce-href="https://www.bernco.gov/health-human-services/indigent-services/" href="https://www.bernco.gov/health-human-services/indigent-services/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">https://www.bernco.gov/health-human-services/indigent-services/</a>). Resource: FTC Funeral Rule: <a data-mce-href="https://www.bernco.gov/health-human-services/indigent-services/" href="https://www.bernco.gov/health-human-services/indigent-services/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">https://www.consumer.ftc.gov/articles/0300-ftc-funeral-rule</a> Additional Notes Northern New Mexico Contacts: Contact county clerks or health offices for guidance (e.g., Taos County Clerk: 575-737-6380). Cultural Considerations: Consult tribal leaders or clergy for Native American or Hispanic traditions. Need Help? Connect with <a data-mce-href="https://journeyingon.com/contact" href="https://journeyingon.com/contact" target="_blank" rel="noopener">me</a>.Source: New Mexico Department of Health (<a data-mce-href="https://www.nmhealth.org/" href="https://www.nmhealth.org/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">https://www.nmhealth.org/</a>) and New Mexico Statutes (<a data-mce-href="https://law.justia.com/codes/new-mexico/2021/chapter-24/article-12a/)" href="https://law.justia.com/codes/new-mexico/2021/chapter-24/article-12a/)" target="_blank" rel="noopener">https://law.justia.com/codes/new-mexico/2021/chapter-24/article-12a/)</a>. &nbsp; &nbsp;

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Dear friends,It’s been a bit since I’ve posted here. New patients have kept me busy, each with their own journey through life’s final chapters, and I’ve been in the studio, working on art that helps me make sense of this work. But I’m here now, eager to share a book that’s caught my attention for anyone grappling with grief: <a data-mce-href="https://www.crossway.org/books/dark-clouds-deep-mercy-tpb/" href="https://www.crossway.org/books/dark-clouds-deep-mercy-tpb/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Dark Clouds, Deep Mercy</a> by <a data-mce-href="https://www.markvroegop.com/" href="https://www.markvroegop.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Mark Vroegop</a>.Grief can hit like a ton of bricks—whether it’s losing someone close, facing a serious illness, or carrying a private pain. In my work with people at the end of life, I see how it can shake you up but also open new ways to heal. I haven’t read Dark Clouds, Deep Mercy yet, but it’s been recommended, and after listening to <a data-mce-href="duck://player/yfuz8WY17dw" href="duck://player/yfuz8WY17dw" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Vroegop on a TGC Podcast episode (49 minutes)</a>, I can see why it resonates. Vroegop, a pastor who lost his stillborn daughter, explores lament—a practice from the Bible where you bring your raw emotions to God, or whatever higher power you lean on. It’s built on Psalms and Lamentations, with four steps: turn to that power, lay out your struggles, ask for help, and hold onto trust. It’s about being honest with your pain, not hiding it.This approach feels universal. It’s like yoga, where you face tough feelings through breath, or Buddhist practices that teach you to sit with suffering. Indigenous traditions often weave grief into rituals that connect you to community. Even journaling or therapy can be a kind of lament—putting your pain into words to find clarity. Whatever your path, this idea of facing grief head-on is something we all get.If you’re navigating end-of-life challenges—yours or someone else’s—I’m here to support you. My work is about meeting you where you are, no strings attached. Visit my <a data-mce-href="https://journeyingon.com/services" href="https://journeyingon.com/services" target="_blank" rel="noopener">services page </a>to see how we can work together.Everyone has their own way of finding meaning—whether it’s a church, a mosque, a hike in the woods, or just your own thoughts. I respect that, and I share resources like this book to offer ideas, not to push one way. We’re all on this road, just taking different paths.Give Dark Clouds, Deep Mercy a look, listen to the podcast, or try the audiobook if it feels right. Got your own ways to deal with grief? Share them with <a data-mce-href="https://journeyingon.com/contact" href="https://journeyingon.com/contact" target="_blank" rel="noopener">me</a>, your community, your pets—your perspective matters.Till next time, Sundara Heart <a data-mce-href="https://journeyingon.com/" href="https://journeyingon.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener" data-mce-selected="inline-boundary">JourneyingOn.com</a>

A Resource for Grief: Dark Clouds, Deep Mercy

Last week, I met up with a friend—a doctor and spiritual teacher—and we fell into a conversation about duality—how the dark and the light aren’t just opposites, but pieces of the same puzzle. It got me thinking about this old cartoon I’ve carried with me for 20 years, God, the Devil, and Bob, and I found myself explaining the episode “The Devil’s Birthday” to him <a data-mce-href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F0EcKXhzbGk" href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F0EcKXhzbGk" target="_blank" rel="noopener">(you can watch it here)</a>. I didn’t play it for him, just told the story—how God forgets the Devil’s birthday, the Devil goes on strike, and God takes over with all light, only for everything to feel empty without the dark. I used it as a metaphor, a way to say: both light and dark matter, they need each other. And now, I want to share that with you all here, because it’s been humming in my mind ever since.Here’s how it goes: the Devil, ticked off about his forgotten birthday, walks off the job. No more shadows, no more trouble. God steps in, floods the world with light, and it seems like it should work—except it doesn’t. Without the Devil, the world turns dull, lifeless. Bob, the regular guy caught in the chaos, has to beg the Devil to come back because the light alone can’t hold it together. I told my friend it’s been a touchstone for me—back when life felt too dark or unfair, I’d think of that story and see how the dark wasn’t just noise; it was part of the balance.That chat led me to this article I’d read on Big Think, “Wisdom of Daoism: Why Yin-Yang Is So Much More Than a Tattoo” <a data-mce-href="https://bigthink.com/mini-philosophy/wisdom-daoism-yin-yang-tattoo/" href="https://bigthink.com/mini-philosophy/wisdom-daoism-yin-yang-tattoo/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">(check it out here)</a>. It digs into how Daoism sees yin and yang—dark and light—as inseparable. Lao Tzu says it simply: “A yin (with) a yang is called dao.” The path isn’t about choosing one; it’s about how they lean on each other. The article points out that too much of either—light or dark—tips the scales, and harmony slips away. It’s the same thing I was getting at with my friend, using that cartoon as a quirky little mirror.And it all ties into death, doesn’t it? In my work here at Journeying On, I see death as that dark—the yin—that gives life its shape. I told my friend how the cartoon’s metaphor fits: without the Devil, the light’s just a washout, and without death, life wouldn’t hit as hard. It’s the shadow that makes the bright moments—love, laughter, a quiet goodbye—stand out. The Big Think piece echoes that: Daoism says the dark isn’t the enemy; it’s the partner. Death, like the Devil in the story, isn’t here to ruin the party—it’s here to make it real.Explaining that to my friend, a doctor and spiritual teacher, wasn’t some big revelation for him—he already lives this stuff, breathing it in his work and wisdom. But it’s been clicking for me, especially sitting with families through loss. The dark of death opens up light they didn’t expect—connection, memory, raw truth. That cartoon and this Daoist lens keep showing me the same thing: we need both. Light and dark, life and death—they’re not at war; they’re dancing. So, I’m sharing these links with you—the episode and the article—because they’ve got me reflecting on how the shadows aren’t just part of the journey; they’re what keep it honest.How do you see light and dark playing out in your own story? If you’re navigating those shadows—or the light they reveal—I’m here to help. Reach out through <a data-mce-href="https://journeyingon.com/contact" href="https://journeyingon.com/contact" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Journeying On</a>; let’s walk through it together. &nbsp; &nbsp;- In Service, Sundara Heart &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;

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